I’m writing this post because I want people to understand why I dislike it when a female character is frail and whiny. I know having a strong female character that can kick ass is unrealistic in the real world but I would take that any day of the week instead of the needy, neurotic, whiny, dumb females that seem to plague YA books.
It all starts with my mother. She is the beautiful woman who raised me and guided me the best that she could to make me the adult that I am today. My father pretty much was out of my life by the time that I was 7 yrs old. So my mother had to be the strong one. The bread winner. The mother and the father. She had to be tough because she couldn’t depend on anybody but herself.
That’s all I’ve known. There are maybe 5 different times that I’ve seen my mother cry. To show that she is soft and vulnerable and have emotions like everyone else. Other than that she held it in because crying never put food on the table or paid the rent or paid the medical bills when I got sick. Nope.
It was my mother working hard to make ends meet. It was her taking care of me and my two sisters. Although their father was in their life he wasn’t shit so it was pretty much my mother doing everything all over again.
My beautiful mother had to be strong. Had to handle everything herself. Had to fight her own battles without relying on a man or any or person for that matter. So when I read a book with a female character that whines or makes googly eyes and is desperate for a man to be her savior I have to roll my eyes and take a deep breath or else I would scream and yell at the absurdity of the situation. If my mother can be strong and do all the things that she did so can you.
And before I get a thrashing I’m not men bashing. This is just my experience from growing up how I did. To be perfectly clear, there has to be a balance. Soft and hard. My mother just didn’t know how to be soft. Yes she showed me and my sister unconditional love but she didn’t teach us how to be open with our feelings. To be exposed and vulnerable. Something that I still struggle with today. Being introverted doesn’t help the matter either.
So there you have it. A little personal insight into my mind and thinking and the reason why fragile female protagonists make me cringes.
What are your reasons on why you like/dislike certain character traits? Please feel free to leave a comment. I would gladly like to have a discussion.